Women: A Decoder - Hook-up Tips from Jinri Park

A SHORT MESSAGE TO ALL OF MENFOLK
 For thousands of years (or 12 years) you, FHM readers, have been trying to figure out what we women really want. Over the past years people have written articles, books, columns on how to “decode” women; the editors of this magazine have exhausted their resources trying to get women write the truth. A couple of men have even come up to me asking the question: What can I do to make you happy? What do you want?
    
 What do we really want? What are we really saying? Relationships have failed because of several instances of misinterpretation, but is it merely men’s fault?

 I say women have played a fair part in this because what we say isn’t really what we mean and want sometimes. This first part of my column will not state the obvious. It will state want women really want deep inside. It will enlighten men on what is actually happening in a woman’s head. Because what women really want is to be understood. Decoding Women 101 starts now…

Love,
Jinri Park

Now for starters:

Is silence really is a woman’s loudest cry? Our columnist breaks her own quiet.

Have you ever experienced the “silent treatment”? I take it your silence means yes.Often men think this as a sign that women want to be left alone. Well, that’s true if you are a guy. Women aren’t that simple. Silence equals to “I want to talk to you and I want you to take the lead.”

Let’s say you went on a date with this girl you are courting. You guys text each other every day. One day you decide to not text her—maybe not intentionally but you didn’t anyway. After a few days of not hearing from her, you try to reconnect. She doesn’t reply. You think she isn’t interested in you and so you stop texting her, too. One day you run into her, you say hi, she totally ignores you, and gives you “the look.” How and why did this all happen? Let’s decode.

Thinking that she isn’t interested simply because she didn’t reply to you is the mistake. She wanted you to make an effort. Her silence meant, “Fight for me, make up for the time you’ve lost.”

Okay, let’s say you are in a relationship. You are in a fight with your girlfriend and all of a sudden she stops talking to you and replying to your tweets. You decided to just leave her alone and stop talking to her, too. I say, big mistake. Even though she isn’t talking to you, you should move heaven and earth to get her to talk to you. The more you leave her alone, the more her anger will build up inside. Make an effort.

When a woman says, “I’m fine,” “it’s okay,” “leave me alone” you must try to see where she is coming from. Men who are successful in this will get far. So try it today.

For more of Decoding Women 101 you can tweet @jinri_88