Whether your relationship is new or you've been dating for years now, the month of love is a great excuse to get kinky or experiment in the bedroom.
If you think you know everything about pleasing a woman, you could be wrong. The opposite sex isn't so verbal when it comes to expressing their sexual needs.
Just because you hear her make the most erotic noises, it doesn't mean you are really shaking up her world. We hate to break it to you, but she could just be faking it.
That said, here are five scientifically proven tips to make your girlfriend (or wife) mad with desire. Check them out below!
1) She wants to be dominated
As it turns out, Anastasia Steele (from the Fifty Shades movies) isn't the only one who enjoys getting dominated.
A whopping 95 percent of the 1,580 participants surveyed for the paper entitled "Sensual, Erotic, and Sexual Behaiviours of Women" admitted that they seriously like getting spanked by their partner. Roughly 87 percent said they also like to try some bondage play, but they are too shy to ask for it.
So the next time you jump in between the sheets, don't hesitate to ask what's on her mind. Her idea might actually be way hotter than yours!
Maribeth Brown, a family and relationships counsellor from Las Piñas City, advises to use words that seem harmless. She says: "The only key to persuading women is the choice of words. The easier or more harmless your words are, the easier they get persuaded."
2) Skip reverse cowgirl
International men's magazine Men's Health asked 1,111 women: "What's the most overrated sex position?" Around 39 percent of the respondents said they hate reverse cowgirl. Dog style came in next spot with over 28 percent votes.
So what the hell is wrong with these sex positions?
"Honestly, the angle is all wrong—not to mention terrifying. While she's up there bopping around, she's also stressing about whether you're enjoying it (as she stares at the wall or your feet) and praying that she doesn't snap you in two," the research reads.
Simply put, these sex positions are not intimate enough. Remember: Most women are looking for a connection during sex to feel satisfied.
If you want to help her enjoy these positions, the researchers suggest being "extra vocal so she feels connected to you" or "hang a strategically placed mirror in the bedroom to give her something more interesting to look at than the wall."
3) Exercise together
A new research reveals that couple who sweat together have the hottest sex lives.
Nearly 50 percent of the lovers in the survey confessed that they experienced better sex while others noticed a significant increase in their sex drive when they do physical activities together.
Donna Dawson, one of the researchers of the study, said: "Indiana Jones got it right, adventure leads to romance! Any physical activity where you have to work together as a couple, strive for a goal, prove your prowess and endure a degree of fear or excitement releases hormones that encourage bonding, loyalty and trust."
She adds: "Add to that increased self-esteem and 'couple pride' in an activity enjoyed and successfully completed and you have the perfect opportunity for a multitude of good feelings to channel themselves into romance, affection, better sex and more."
4) Play sensual music
It might be a good idea to play music the next time you jump in between the sheet, as online streaming site Deezer found that playing music can really improve the mood.
They surveyed their users on which songs they like to hear most during intimate moments. Rihanna came in the first place with her hit song "Skin" followed by Marvin Gaye's "Let's Get It On," and Lil Wayne's "Lollipop".
Other songs that made it on the list are:
- Drunk In Love – Beyoncé
- Love to Love You Baby – Donna Summer
- Me & U – Cassie
- Love Me Like You Do – Ellie Goulding
- Magic – Coldplay
- Intro – The XX
- Sexy Back – Justin Timberlake
Meanwhile, Justin Bieber and Kanye West are at top of the list of artists that turn them off.
Tracey Cox, international sex, body language and relationships expert explains that "listening to music causes our brain to flood with dopamine, the pleasure hormone."
"Physiologically, people’s bodies love deep bass sounds, which, if loud enough, also produces vibration, making it powerfully arousing. There’s scientific proof that music is a mood enhancer in the bedroom—but the wrong song can have the opposite effect."
5) Make sexy, loud moans
Yup, women like it better when their partner makes a lot of noise during intercourse!
The researchers from University of Central Lancashire and University of Leeds surveyed 71 sexually active women about their biggest sexual turn-on and the biggest percentages goes to, well, moaning. They found out that being vocal during sex helps women to have a more pleasurable and orgasmic experience.
Sexpert Dr. Pam Spurr explains that, "A well-timed moan or groan, or pleasure-signalling phrase is often all a woman needs to fuel her enthusiasm—and it lets her know exactly when it's feeling good."
So, now you know what to do the next time you bump uglies with the missus!