PCOS or polycystic ovarian syndrome is like a bitchy kontrabida that can ruin your girlfriend’s life (and yours, too). The sneaky condition, which affects about one in five women, disrupts a woman’s hormone levels and wreaks havoc on different parts of the body.
For instance, girls suffering from PCOS get insulin resistance, which ultimately makes them gain weight. All the sugar that the body can’t metabolize turns into fat, explains Dr. Rebecca Singson, an OB-GYN at St. Luke’s Medical Center, in an article published at Cosmo.ph. Their body may also produce a lot testosterone—yup, the male reproductive hormone—that results in more hair (including in unusual places) and acne problems.
Another bummer once her hormones go haywire? Her sex drive can go down. A study done by medical researchers from the Augusta University in Georgia found that “women with PCOS, compared to controls, have some degree of impairment in the domain of sexual arousal, but little evidence of any other sexual dysfunction.” This means turning her on can be a bit of a challenge sometimes.
The hormonal imbalance results in irregular periods, too, which could spoil plans for sexy time. In a Women’s Health article, Mary Jane Minkin, M.D., a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at the Yale University School of Medicine, explains that the hormonal imbalance gives some women sporadic flows, which can only be corrected by taking birth control pills.
Don’t worry, guys—this doesn’t mean that sex with your girl would be a strict no-no, nor will it limit how many times you can do the deed (or how steamy each night can be). Some women we interviewed actually don't consider PCOS as a hindrance, but also admitted that it will help if the partner understands their situation. In this regard, we listed down a few simple rules to live by to make sure your sex life in the time of PCOS doesn’t suffer:
1) If she’s not in the mood, don’t push it
She’s not just being pakipot or making excuses—her period might have sprung up on her (it can come twice in a month of once in three months for some). When this happens, some women experience intense menstrual cramps or feel discomfort due to the bleeding.
2) Let her down gently if she’s too horny (It happens!)
On the flip side, some women with PCOS get a kick in libido because of an increase in androgen levels, according to research. This means she could plead for sex and ask for quickies almost every chance you get—even during her period. Some couples are okay with this, but if period sex makes you uncomfortable, tell her so. Be honest, but don’t be mean!
3) Don’t make sex jokes about not being able to conceive
“At least, unlimited sex, kasi di ka naman mabubuntis.” Foul, pare.
4) Always make her feel attractive
Arousal and orgasm problems can arise because of a “psychological block,” according to Dr. Shannon Clark, an OB-GYN from the University of Texas Medical Branch at Galveston. In an interview for Refinery29, Dr. Clark explains that the physical problems associated with PCOS can give a woman body image issues, which affects her libido. If your girl feels the same, then tell her all your turn-ons and make her feel wanted.
5) Find creative ways to turn her on.
Of course, it helps to be creative (and determined) when it comes to your bedroom moves. You might want to explore the places she likes to be touched and shower her secret erogenous zones with kisses. Have fun, guys!