A PSA from FHM's spy inside the female kingdom: Just because we ladies are all #feminists now doesn’t mean we don’t get that extra ounce of kilig (or at least that ay-mabait-pala-siya double take) whenever you guys do something remotely chivalrous, polite, or old-school-ish.
We can open our own doors, thank you very much, and carry our own bags and pay our own way—but just think that you doing all these things don’t cost much (well, maybe except the paying part) but reaps dividends in how pogi and bango we see you. (Read: we will defend your bacon briefs and inexplicable addiction to World of Warcraft to our friends because “Gentleman naman siya eh!”—plus we all know gentlemen, as opposed to bacon-briefed WoW addicts, get more action).
So we say, at least try! And don't you worry. Even if your girl is in the extreme "girl power" group, she'll appreciate it deep down inside, and you can start with doing these things again (or at least more consistently) for her.
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PICKING US UP—CARLESS OR NOT
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We get it: Between the cost of gas and the logistical nightmare that is Manila traffic, it’s just much easier for us to just meet up someplace. Of course, any girl will swallow her inner high-maintenance drama queen and agree to your time-saving, cost-efficient plan. But which girlfriend is the happier girlfriend: the one who gives practically 30-percent of her sweldo to Uber or the one who gets to happily wave goodbye to her officemates, gaily saying, “Andyan na si (Your Name Here) sa baba eh, bye!”?
She knows how hard it is for you to drive her around—which is precisely the reason why you should do it with no complaint. Throw in a “Hindi na safe mag-commute ngayong oras ng gabi” text before picking her up and you’re golden. Don’t have wheels of your own? Ride with her to her stop and make the trek back to yours solo.
MOVING OVER TO THE SIDE OF ONCOMING TRAFFIC WHEN CROSSING THE STREET
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Sounds basic right? But it reminds us ladies that you won’t ever let a rumaragasang jeep ram right into us—an oft-overlooked quality most men lack nowadays (we kid). Ditto for walking on the outer half of the sidewalk, rolling down your driver’s side window instead of hers when asking for direction…anything that makes us feel you’ve got our safety and security on your mind at all times (even though, let’s face it, if danger is imminent it will be us practicing what we learned at Krav Maga while you hold our handbag) gets major plus points in our book.
OBSERVING PROPER STAIR ETIQUETTE
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Once and for all, here’s how it’s done: If you’re going up a set of stairs, you follow behind us—so in case we stumble you’re there for a quick catch. Coming down a staircase, you should go ahead of us, to safeguard against the same stumbling-down scenario (a likely occurrence both in formalwear at a wedding ballroom or tipsy at a nightclub). We suppose this should be easy enough to remember, since you get an unobstructed view of our asses going up a flight of stairs. See? Perks!
OPENING CAR DOORS
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Again, very basic. Come over to our side and open our door. It makes us feel all special and princess-y. Same goes for pulling out our chair at restaurants. This little bit of class and mindfulness almost makes up for the gross dining habits and bad music you force us to listen to in the car.
GIVING UP A SEAT
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Hey, douchebag pretending to be blind to every woman pointedly standing and gripping God-knows-what in the middle of a jam-packed MRT train, we’re talking about you. So you’re telling us you can’t handle the MRT at rush hour and just have to sit down while we brave the rush and crush? No wonder they say women are stronger than men. Stand up, at least for the hugely pregnant lady who looks like she’s going to pop at any second.
Also, don't do it just because she's got booty, mmkay? Well, if she is your GF, then double thumbs up, bro!
HOLDING THE UMBRELLA
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We’re not asking you to fashion a makeshift raft and risk life and limb when hellish levels of rain come pouring down, we are merely asking you to hold our umbrellas up over our heads if we’re out on the street. C’mon, we’re most likely already providing the umbrella anyway, the least you can do is hold it. And while you’re at it, maybe you could quit bemoaning the fact that your new Jordans are slowly getting wet? Enjoy the fact that we’re going to have to squeeze together for maximum coverage. Now if only we both didn’t smell like wet dogs…
SHOWING UP ON TIME
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Filipino time is BS. If you say 2 p.m., you can be sure we’re ready to go or already waiting with a minute to spare. In olden times, it was incredibly rude to let women wait, especially alone in public establishments—and even if we are in the 21st century, telling us to “Ikot-ikot ka na lang muna, be there in a few” is still pretty crass. Hey, if we can throw all our slap on and pick an outfit and factor in traffic and all that on time, why can’t you?
KEEPING OUR SHIT PRIVATE
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So we drunkenly tell you all about our sexcapades with our hot (female) neighbor back in high school. Juicy stuff, right? Juicy enough to immediately send “Tibo si Girl nung high school pre sIya mismo nagsabi. Hot nga eh” to your barkada’s Viber group? Nope. A thousand times nope. The bro code extends to us, too. This especially goes for dudes spilling an ex’s secrets due to #bitterness. That’s just not cool, sir. Know when to keep mum—girls love a trustworthy man.
PICKING UP THE TAB
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In the age of high-cost living and gender equality, going halfsies on a date has become the norm. We don’t mind, really—but it’s pretty impressive when you suavely say “Ako na muna” when the check comes. Now, don’t make a big deal about it (and don’t bring us to places you can’t afford anyway, because we can totally see you inwardly computing how long you’ll be eating instant noodles after this date) and simply observe the rule that if it’s the first few dates, you’re expected to shoulder the bill. And if we offer to split, turn us down politely. Besides, we’re not PG freeloaders—we’ll buy dessert after.