Unsurprisingly, many men took the opportunity to ask anonymously their burning, juicy questions about sex—specifically, oral sex. Here are some of the interesting insights about going down on your girl, and what Dr. Jess has to say to make it hotter:
1) Communication is key
As cliché as it sounds, talking about what you want is vital. "You can make sex pleasurable by simply asking your partner what they like. More here? Faster? Slower? Harder? Use your hands, lips, tongue, breath and every other body part you can think of. And make sure you learn to both give and take," O'Reilly points out.
2) Take it slow
Savor what’s happening—every touch, every kiss. "When we’re excited, our minds race and our bodies stumble to keep pace," she explains. "In the heat of the moment, our caresses often become slovenly gropes and our lustful kisses deteriorate into something from a bad romance novel."
3) Your nose knows
A new way to spice up the usual oral? O'Reilly suggests, "Apply a drop of lube and run your nose down the centre of her vulva—roll it around in large circle around the edges or slide it right inside as you nod your head up and down and back and forth. Breathe deeply and let your natural sounds flow freely to let her know just how much you love it."
4) Create a suction cup
"Open your mouth as wide as you can and press it against her vulva. Suck away as your roll your tongue around the edges of your lips to create your own suction cup."
5) Use your palm
Say goodbye to "fingering" and hello to palming. "Forget fingering (for now) and use your entire hand to take her pleasure to new heights. Place a flat hand against her vulva (as though you’re cupping it) and apply pressure as you slide up and down. You'll need lots of lube for this one," the sexpert says.
6) Rub her the right way
...and here are the specific ways to do it:
"Her inner clitoris is just as important as the pearl-like head that peers over the top of her vulva—the legs and bulbs can be stimulated through her labia with the right amount of pressure. Use the tip of your tongue to tease between her lips during the early stages of foreplay and use your lips and cheeks (covered in lube) to increase the pressure.
"As she gets closer to orgasm, stroke your tongue from the head of her clitoris right down to the fourchette (where the lips meet at the bottom) while pressing your thumbs firmly into the fleshy parts of her outer lips so that she has a grounded surface against which to grind."
7) Change positions
Most couples engage in oral with the receiving partner on their back. The repetition can make even the hottest techniques boring. To take things to a whole new level, O'Reilly cites the following:
a) Flip her onto her stomach
b) Ask her to get down all fours
c) Pull her legs off the side of the bed
d) Have her bend one leg up onto the couch while standing
e) Place her ankles in her hands while she lies on her back
f) Let her sit on your face and wrap her legs right around you
g) Lie on your sides facing one another
h) Lift her onto the kitchen counter and pull up a chair
For more advice, check the whole thread here