Admit it: You've lied to your girlfriend a few times.
You've told her she looks sexy in her dress when you actually thought she looks fat. You've told her "Kailangan ko mag-overtime today, babe" when in fact you are having a drinking session with your barkada. You've told her that your smartphone’s battery was drained, but the truth is you just turned it off because "ang kulit niya!"
Let's get straight to the point, gents: It will never be okay to lie to the woman who has given you her full trust. Lying is lying, no matter how small or big it is. You may have the best of intentions for doing so (read: you didn't want to hurt her feelings), but not telling her the truth might just lead to more hurt feelings in the end.
And here's another thing: You might fool her today, but she'll surely find out the truth one day. As the old saying goes, "Walang sikretong hindi nabubunyag." If that doesn't scare the crap out of you, below are five other good reasons to convince you!
1) You WILL forget the lie you made up.
How good is your memory? Can you tell her the exact story you made up if she brings up the issue again after a week or a month? Chances are you would've already forgotten it and would now have to craft a different story. Before you know it, you’ll find yourself tangled in a web of drama and deceit.
2) It will be impossibly hard to get rid of your reputation as a liar when she finds out.
Trust us, she will not trust you the same way she did pre-lies. She'll always wonder whether or not she can really trust you. Even if you tell the truth, she will still doubt because you've lied before. What will convince her that it's different this time? It will take so much time before she fully trusts you again, and you're going to need to put a lot of effort to regain it. Think about it. The lies just aren't worth it.
3) She will take it as a sign of disrespect.
More than anything else, lying is a sign of disrespect to your partner. It's a sign that you don't or didn't have enough respect for the trust she put in you. Once that respect is broken, don't expect to get the respect she may have once had for you. It will be an uphill climb to restore that trust, and ultimately, that respect. Oftentimes, the relationship won't make it out alive.
4) If she doesn't eat you up, the guilt will.
When you lie to your girlfriend, you are going to live your days with a certain tinge of guilt. You know that feeling, right? Sleeping at night can become really hard and you are always in this uneasy, agitated mood when you're with her because you're praning: "Does she know already? Is she playing with me?" It'll make you want to avoid her slowly because it's just easier to hide things that way, which leads to...
5) You'll eventually have to come clean at the risk of ending the relationship.
So you've admitted your lies. Consider yourself lucky if she wholeheartedly accepts your apology because a good portion of women out there just don't believe in second chances. And who can blame them? Walking away from a deceitful relationship might be better for the two of you.
So: DON'T LIE. Lying to your other half is one of the worst things you can do even if it doesn't involve another woman. If you truly love her, tell her the truth no matter how painful or mababaw it may be. It takes a lot of balls to do it, but hey, you're a man, aren't you? You might make her cry now, but she'll definitely appreciate your conviction to be honest.