If your sex life feels a little boring lately, maybe it’s time to spice things up. If you’re not into the whole sex toys or BDSM thing, don’t fret—there’s something else you can do to heat up the between-the-sheets action without having to resort to accessories. Try giving you partner an erotic massage for a change.
In a recent study by popular condom brand, Durex, it was revealed that a sensual massage is a skill that every couple—no matter what stage of the relationship you are in—should learn. According to the brand, simple things, such as a scalp massage or a foot rub don't just relax and arouse your partner, it “can open up a whole new world of playtime for you and your lover.”
Now, here’s a step-by-step guide you should follow:
Make the room (and her) warm
Making your love nest warm is the first thing you should do (heat relaxes the muscles, FYI). Light up those scented candles, play some soothing music, and preferably, take a warm bath (together of course) to further ease your muscles prior the massage. Remember: Your goal is to make her feel like she’s in her favorite spa. Put her into a satisfying state of relaxation.
Prepare the props
Of course, a massage isn’t complete without the necessities. You’ll need to have lotion or massage oil ready for the sensual night ahead. For a truly romantic—and sexy—vibe, get one with a lavender scent. Also, don’t forget to have soft pillows and warm towels ready by your bedside!
Now, on to the massage
No worries—you don’t need a degree in physical therapy to be able to give your partner an amazing back rub. Here's what Durex advises you do: “Focus on the large muscles of the back, thighs and buttocks. Start with smooth effleurage strokes—circular caresses with the fingertips or palm. If you find any particularly tense areas, either ease them out slowly or, if they're stubborn, use petrissage— kneading the muscles, using your knuckles for particularly tight areas.” As always, start slowly and gently, and build up the pressure gradually.
Time for the sensual play
Now that you’ve learned how to properly caress her, the next step is to alternate those therapeutic presses with more erotic strokes. “Try kneading the shoulder muscles before softly trailing your fingertips down the side of your lover's neck, or massaging the sides of her breasts and buttocks—which can store a lot of tension—then let your fingers stray to more intimate zones,” Durex explains.
Speaking of intimate zones, before getting there, excite her more by creating gentle circular patterns starting from around her hips, buttocks, and on to the back of her thighs. Work your way up and stop just before you reach her genitals. Repeat this a few times to stimulate (and tease) her more. If your fingers get tired from all the circling, well, you can use other body parts as well. Trust, she'll be moaning with delight.
Last but not the least: communicate
The best tips and techniques will come from your partner. Don’t be shy to ask her what she wants. Of course, don’t forget to pay attention to how she reacts while you’re executing the tips above—that’ll be your ultimate guide.