Last year, we tried to explain the biggest dating trends that went viral on social media—ghosting, breadcrumbing, haunting, and so many other complicated terms that left us scratching our heads and thinking “WTF?” And just when we thought these labels died along with the year that was, turns out, there’s a whole new set of dating terms that await us this year.
Earlier this month, we've learned the ins and outs of micro-cheating. At the rate this is going, it sure looks like dating today will get way more complicated than it was in 2017. So in case you’re stuck in an unexplainable setup and you're suddenly stumped as to what's going on with your shitty love life right now, maybe these new terms can help to clarify your confusion for you.
Nope, this isn’t about exorcism or killing off those ghosts cinematically. Ghostbusting is when you try to keep in touch with someone who already ghosted you (For recap, ghosting is when someone you’re somewhat regular companion suddenly disappears with no warning). Ghostbusters either have no idea that they’ve been ghosted, or worse, they know it but just can't move on. They just have to find out what’s up, and what went wrong even when they get no response at all. For them, persistence is key—and perhaps, the best and likely last Hail Mary-move to change someone's heart.
Flexting is when you try to impress a potential date on social media. For example, you just Facebook friend-ed your apple of the eye; after that, you begin to constantly update your feed with posts such as gym selfies, food flatlays, travel snaps, and more. The whole point of this is to demonstrate how fun, hip, and such a catch you are. Just remember to back up those interesting updates once you meet up in real life, though. Women can smell a poser from a mile away.
Been “seen” on Facebook Messenger a couple of times? You’re not alone. Cricketing is a term when you read a message and you take too long to reply to it—and it’s not because of some lame excuse such as you’re busy or you don't have a Wi-Fi connection. You “cricket” because, sadly, you’re not just into her. You may reply but it’ll probably take 24 hours, or even a week after you read that message. We won’t be surprised if this situation turns into ghosting after a while.
From the word “serendipity” which means “the occurrence and development of events by chance in a happy way,” serendipidating is when you leave up to fate what happens after a date. It’s when you don’t make an effort to continue what you started, and merely rely on destiny to influence what happens next (like, whether you’re meant for each other or not). In reality, though, serendipidating is just a cheesy cover up for those who want to keep their options open. Letting “fate” decide—who’ll believe that?
Fauxbae’ing is when you pretend to have a secret special someone over social media, yet in reality, you’re actually single AF. Some do this to make an ex jealous, or just to show off. So if you see pictures of your ex having dinner or go on movie dates with a mysterious man, captioned with “Thank you for today, you know who you are,”—don’t worry, there’s a chance that she’s just fauxbae’ing.
Dating terms courtesy of dating site Plenty of Fish.