For some, refusing to date people with a different political view is absurd. “Politics shouldn’t get in the way of a romantic relationship,” many will say. But it's not that easy. For others, dating a ka-DDS, a dilawan, or just someone who doesn’t share your political views is a deal breaker. It's a non-negotiable and a big no-no. How about you? What are your views on this?
We wouldn’t be surprised if most of you still try to get to know and actually date that person. You’re game for it only because you believe that opposites do attract, or perhaps, you like her that much and will accept her views even if they greatly differ from yours. Anyway, no matter what your reason is, below are some tips—from those who've actually dated someone with a different political view—on how to navigate this path. Even if you don’t end up together, you don’t want to be enemies, right? A word of caution: it’s not going to be easy, bro.
Agree to disagree
“Some say that you shouldn’t discuss politics on the first date—but my partner and I did. It’s actually a good thing because,
“When my ex-girlfriend (who’s Ilocana and a Marcos fan) and I were still together, we established some ground rules. For example: 1) Bawal mag-scroll
“My girlfriend and I have simple rules such as always be respectful when commenting and avoid criticism. Tandaan, nasa date ka at wala sa debate.” John, 33
Communication is key
“Communication is important. Learn when to listen. Learn when to speak. Don’t be afraid to share how you feel just because
Don’t ever try to change the person
“Never try to persuade your partner to be on your side or away from their side. This shows that you don’t accept and respect her as a person. If you don’t like her views, then leave. There are others out there who share your political views, and who will make you feel supported, respected, and appreciated.” – Sam, 26