Have you ever sat down with your partner and talked about how often she wants to have sex? You may have never considered discussing this topic because you assume it’s not important, but it is.
A survey conducted by Fertility app Kindara found that over 53.2 percent of 500 female participants weren’t satisfied with how much intercourse they were having. A whopping 75 percent said they’d like to fool around in some capacity more than three times a week, while a shocking 13 percent said they wanted to have sex more than six times a week.
Most women are hesitant to communicate their sexual needs for fear of being judged or misunderstood.
“Women have been taught for many generations to be submissive and silent,” explains Dr. Tyler Ong, a clinical psychologist, and family and marriage therapist. “These women might decide that it’s not worth confronting their partners about, especially when it might mean a loss of warmth or intimacy in other areas of their lives. Men after all, tend to suffer from a lessening of their masculinity when told that they weren't able to satisfy their partners.”
Therefore, it’s always important to keep communication lines open.
In our attempt to confirm these findings, we decided to conduct our own survey on how often women want to make love. The answers vary, but the average frequency is three to four times a week—inclusive of foreplay and quickies.
See their detailed responses below!
“I think twice or four times a week is okay. But let me note that it’s about quality over quantity every time. If it’s not great sex, there’s no point.” —Michelle, 30
“I like to have sex whenever possible. My work schedule is completely opposite with my partner so I really like it wild whenever we have time.” —Nica, 25
“It depends on a lot of factors like work and stress, but generally every other day would be nice. It doesn’t really have to be long, just a meaningful one.” —Aira, 27
“I would be happy with three to four times a week. If there’s a marathon weekend in there, I can handle no sex for a few days after.” —Ella, 28
“I’d say I’d want sex anywhere from four to 10 times a week. It really depends on my mood and free time.” —Charmaine, 22
“I’m cool with three or five times per week. More is a plus, but not necessary. I’m also flexible on the definition of sex. It could just be foreplay or a quickie.” —Lovely, 24
“Daily would be amazing. Sometimes some quick sex could help by being a real pick-me-up. In reality though, three to four times with all types of sex would be ideal. It needs to be a mix of both of us initiating though.” —Kim, 29
“For me, it’s about feeling wanted, not just the sex. But I’m good with four to six times a week. I’d love to do it on a weekend because there’s nothing to worry about.” —Celine, 29