Those “ooh’s” and “aah’s” your woman makes whenever you’re having sex can be like music to your ears. "Faster, harder, louder," you might have even said back. Those screams and shrieks, admit it, they make you feel like the ultimate performer.
But behind those moans lies a secret. Sorry to burst your bubble (and your ego), but if you think those sounds are positive responses to all the touching and kissing, you're wrong.
According to a study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, women moan and groan during sex mainly for two reasons: 1) to speed up their partner’s climax, 2) to boost their partner’s self-esteem.
Yep, it’s not wholly because of your performance. Sorry.
The researchers, headed by Gayle Brewer of the University of Central Lancashire and Colin Hendrie of the University of Leeds, asked 71 sexually active women why they vocalize during sex. They found that 66 percent of the respondents moan simply to speed up their partner’s orgasm, while a whopping 87 percent said they do that to pretend they’re reaching their peak, just so you'll feel good about yourself.
"These data together clearly demonstrate a dissociation of the timing of women experiencing orgasm and making copulatory vocalizations and indicate that there is at least an element of these responses that are under conscious control, providing women with an opportunity to manipulate male behavior to their advantage," the study revealed.
The researchers also add: "While female orgasms were most commonly experienced during foreplay, copulatory vocalizations were reported to be made most often before and simultaneously with male ejaculation."
Experts also found that women moan when they’re bored, tired, or uncomfortable during sex, so that you’ll get turned on and finish faster.
But don't fret; the study states that sometimes, women let out those sexy sounds when they’re actually having an orgasm, so it’s not all lies. Sadly, though, it's hard to tell when it’s fake or not.