The researchers conducted a total of three studies with the help of 229 couples, aged 18 to 68 years old, who have been together for an average of six years, and reported to have sex at least once or twice a week.
In one study, the researchers asked 44 couples to write down their level of sexual desire per day, their perception of their partner's level of desire, and relationship satisfaction.
For the second study, they invited 84 couples to come in the laboratory to report their levels of desire, perception of their partner's desire, and their happiness in the relationship.
Meanwhile, 101 couples, for the third study, kept a diary to report the same three issues as in the two studies, and how motivated they were each day to avoid sexual rejection.
The results for the three studies were the same: Men consistently underestimate their girlfriend or wife's desire, and most of the time they misinterpret their partner's needs. In addition, women felt more satisfied in their relationships on the days when men under-perceived their sexual interest.
So what do you need to do to address this issue? Lead researcher Amy Muise says you need to communicate with your partner. Talk about what kinds of signals you use to show your desire or what kind of signals you prefer to receive. You can also try scheduling sex.
"It lets you plan and get psyched about it. You're pre-negotiating a good time," Muise told Wall Street Journal. Bring out your calendars and start marking some dates!
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