Whether or not you believe in astrology, it can be oddly satisfying to read your horoscope and allow the painful realization that you are a terrible person to sink in. Here’s the good news: when it comes to relationships, we’re all pretty shitty. We’re just shitty in different ways. (You’ll find, though, that when signs are categorized by elements—Fire, Earth, Air, and Water—their negative traits seem to be thematically connected.) Read on to find out the extent of your romantic shittiness:
Fire Signs - Aries, Leo, Sagittarius
We get it—you like to be in charge. Even Jesus couldn’t take the wheel from you. This control freak syndrome tends to seep into your romantic relationships, resulting in your partner feeling trapped and tied up (not the sexy kind). It’s important to respect her boundaries and allow her to have a life outside of your relationship, because hey, that would do you some good, too.
All right, Lion, you can tone down the roars for now. Leadership might come naturally to you, but sometimes, your girl’s going to have differing preferences and opinions—from little things like which movie to see to huge life decisions like having a kid. You want to make your partner feel like her say is just as valuable as yours.
You value independence, dear Archer, so you often ask your partners to keep your leash long. The thing is, enjoying a little too much freedom could cause your partner to feel left out. By all means, wander, but don’t forget to devote a fair amount of time and attention to your relationship.
Earth Signs - Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn
You have a tendency to be stubborn and self-indulgent—sometimes, it’s all about you, and your partner’s obviously not going to play that game. Learn to acknowledge when you’re wrong and become empathetic to your partner’s motives. They just might surprise you. Oh, and when it comes to finances, we know you’re the boss, but unless you’re married, giving them unsolicited advice about money can get touchy.
Whoa there—was that mean-spirited comment really necessary? It’s okay to point out things about your partner that you’re genuinely bothered by. What’s not okay is belittling their accomplishments and undermining their confidence while you’re at it. She’ll appreciate constructive feedback that will actually contribute to her (and your relationship’s) growth.
The thing about you, Capricorn, is you actually do tend to be right, which means you take yourself just a smidge too seriously. Lighten up a bit, especially during arguments with your partner, so that you avoid bad habits like bringing up the past or resorting to unrelated personal attacks.
Air Signs - Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius
Well, we don’t know how to put this lightly. You tend to be, erm, inconsistent. One week you’re super sweet, the next you’re a block of ice. Most partners can’t deal with this behavior on a long-term scale, so if you want to stay taken, you’ll want to try and form good and lasting relationship habits. This way, they won’t feel like they’re walking on eggshells with you.
Why do you have to be so damn indecisive? Your fear of inertia doesn’t just stop you from moving forward in life—it also makes your partner feel neglected or unimportant. To show them you do care (because we know you do; you’re just terrible at showing it), make an effort to be clear. Ambiguity only drags things out.
We get that you’ve been hurt before. We’ve all been. This has made you overwhelmingly talented at detachment, which your partner won’t take kindly to. You’re not a robot, and they’ll definitely appreciate a show of emotion, whether that’s being more affectionate with them, or being more honest during arguments.
Water Signs - Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces
Mood rings conk out with you, Cancer, because you’re so emotionally fickle, it can be a pain for your partner to keep up. We understand that you’re a pessimist by nature, but there’s no need to bring your partner down with you if they didn’t do anything wrong. You need to trust that they won’t feel differently about you when you show them your worst sides. Go ahead. Lean on them.
Jealous, jealous Scorpio, your constant need for assurance and validation can be draining for your partner. Your trust issues from past relationships shouldn’t have a hand in ruining your current one. Besides, what’s love without trust? Allow your partner to hang out with other people without feeling threatened.
You’re a bit too sensitive, Fish, which can result in your partner feeling like they can’t be completely transparent with you. Remember that occasional criticism is good for both you and your relationship. It doesn’t mean they love you any less. To withstand the ups and downs of a romantic relationship, you’ll need to steel yourself.