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Aug 18, 2015
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Why enter a complicated relationship when all you want is sex? Because #realtalk, maybe some of us just need temporary warmth. In which case, look for a FuBu, or as polite society calls them, "friends with benefits." It's a kind of engagement that's low on commitment and high on desire-fulfillment. It's not for everyone, but maybe it is for you.

Now, if you think fuckbuddy-ship only works in movies, you're wrong. A lot of girls are open to this kind of set up—if you only knew how to ask. You're not the only one who's afraid of Commitment, bro. If you do ask though, then we've got a list for you. Below are the nine things you've got to keep in mind when you're trying to find a sex-friend and maintain a relationship—if you can call it that—with her:


1) IDENTIFY YOUR TARGET

You go for broken-hearted girls, but you'll probably end up making her hate guys even more. So don't lock onto a target based on emotional vulnerability. Instead, look out for their mindset and attitude. Is she looking for fun or something more serious? Is she open to the idea of a sex-only relationship or is she a firm believer in exclusive post-marriage coitus? It's about aligning yourself to someone with a same set of needs.


2) ASK AND EXPLAIN DIRECTLY

Once you feel like she shares the same beliefs regarding romance, the surest way to get a FuBu is to directly ask her. Tell her the kind of relationship you're trying to pursue here, and ask her if it's something she agrees with. That's the only way you can really be sure that the sex will be consensual.

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3) SET BOUNDARIES

Before you become "official," you have to set rules in order to be clear with your role in each other's lives. Is there a "don't ask, don't tell" policy? Can you add each other on Facebook? Do your mutual friends have to know? This keeps things from getting messier than usual.


4) DON'T SHARE PERSONAL INFO

Why would you? It sounds cold, but for this sort of relationship to work, you might want to NOT talk about your favorite movie, first love, family dramas and everything in between. Because those things set you and her up for, erm, feelings. In this set-up, your only obligation is to pick up the phone when she feels that need.



5) NO CUDDLING

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Don't cuddle after having sex. Or do you want to develop feelings for her?


6) ALWAYS USE PROTECTION

You don't want her pregnant, do you?



7) GENERALLY, BE A DICK

Don't be too much of a gentleman, but don't be a complete asshole too. Just be nice enough that she won't have to call the police or something. Avoid sending sweet text messages like "Good morning beautiful!" or "Kumain ka na ba?" Long story short, you have to limit your interaction outside the bedroom.

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8) ALWAYS BE READY FOR ENDINGS (AND NOT JUST THE HAPPY SORT)

Don't expect closure. This kind of relationship is fun but it's inherently fleeting, and it usually ends by the time she finds her Prince Charming.

(Addendum: Can't that prince charming be you? Sure, but it's not always a smooth transition.)

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9) YOU CAN SEE OTHER GIRLS

It's a perk of such a set-up, and a way to avoid getting overly attached. Ms. Right NOW may be fun to be with but in real life, things rarely end like Friends With Benefits or No Strings Attached.

At the same time, accept that she can also see other guys.

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