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Nov 17, 2016
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If you think porn is solely a man's game, data from international magazine Marie Claire say otherwise.

In a survey conducted with 3,000 women, researchers found that one in three women watch X-rated films through their smartphones. Around 31 percent revealed that they watch adult videos at least every week and a whopping 66 percent said they never watch it with their significant other. As to why they keep it a secret from their partners, the reason varies.

Should you be alarmed?

Maribeth Brown, a family and relationships counselor, says you shouldn't be bothered if you ever discover your S.O. watching erotic videos without your knowledge, but do let her know if you find her habit disturbing.

"You could always talk to your girlfriend or wife if it's bothering you," she says. "Watching alone as an adult is harmless. What's harmful is the action taken after watching porn such as child abuse or infidelity."

Dr. Joy-Alvi R. Arañas, RPsy, RGC, counseling psychologist from Pathways Counseling and Assessment Center, agrees, saying you should only start to worry when the degree and frequency of your GF's porn-watching habit is already affecting your relationship or sex life.

"As long as it's not interfering with the sex and social life, and family responsibility of the couple, it cannot be considered harmful."

Brown says women watch porn primarily because it helps them escape and de-stress. "Women might want to escape the realities of daily life and are seeking something different to take their mind off stress," she explains.

She adds, "It's also possible she's curious about how it can help improve your sex life so she'd take lessons from porn videos."

She may also turn to them when she needs visual aids to feel turned on, especially when her partner is unavailable or not in the mood. According to the study, women also view porn as "a quick road to an orgasm."

Brown, however, warns that your girlfriend's porn-viewing habit may indicate she's no longer satisfied with your performance.

"When women get unsatisfied with the performance of their current partner, sometimes they'd resort to porn to look for fun and naughty videos that could help satisfy their own needs," Brown says.

Most women aren't too open to talk about sex even with their partners. So take the initiative and talk to your partner about it. 

If you're comfortable about it, go ahead and watch porn with her, says Dr. Arañas, as "several research shows that doing so can enhance emotional and sexual intimacy."

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For other sex and relationships concern, you may reach Maribeth Brown, a family and relationships counselor, via Facebook.

Dr. Joy-Alvi R. Arañas is a clinical psychologist from Pathways Counseling and Assessment Center. For consultation, you can visit him at 718 Sunday Street St. Joseph Village, Panapaan, City of Bacoor, Cavite.

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