It's a common scenario here in the Philippines. You have it all: the career, the girl, the money, the friends, the car, but one thing seems to be amiss. Oh, that's right. At your age, you still live with your parents. This is more commonly referred to as failure to launch. Yes, it's that Matthew McConaughey movie where he plays a 35-year old man still living with his parents.
Apparently, it's more common than you think, especially in our family-centric country. Sure, your parents love having you around, but let's face it, bro, you should give them a break. You're a fully grown man and your folks deserve some time on their own after nurturing you into adulthood.
It might be hard for you to separate yourself from the loving grasp of your parents, especially if you're used to your mom's home-cooked meals and the comforting thought of not having to pay any rent. However, there is still a way out. You just have to detach yourself emotionally and mentally in order to be able to stand on your own two feet.
In order to aid you in your quest to move out, here are some steps which you could do to overcome your failure to launch once and for all:
Choose your partner
"It doesn't have to be a romantic partner," says career advisor Brenda Uy of Career Consultants, Inc. You can rely on either your friends or your mentors to help push you out of your comfort zone.
It's true that no man is an island. Uy suggests that you should start going out not just for fun, but also to mingle with people. You never know who you might meet. Any person could have an impact on your future self.
Extra knowledge can give you that boost of confidence you've been missing these years. "Developing a skill can boost your self-esteem and would make others think of you as a person they could look up to," suggests Uy. You wouldn't want to disappoint anyone, would you?
Learn to be independent
Being independent means being mindful of the things you do, like cleaning up after yourself or being financially stable. "You must learn to take care of yourself properly for an easier transition once you live on your own," notes Uy.
Don't worry too much
Refrain from thinking too much about the past and the events of the future. Think of what you can do in the present to make your life better without constantly asking for assistance. Uy says that living in the present will help you feel more positive about yourself, which helps with self-improvement.